AGREE TO DISAGREE – How to Disagree Respectfully

How to Disagree Respectfully

Would n’t it be wonderful to live in a world where we agree on everything that matters? Or to work in a conflict-free environment, where everyone feels heard and every idea is a one? Well, unfortunately, that’s not the way the world works, and that’s certainly not how it is in the workforce. After all any time you have a convergence of varying skill sets, perspectives, and experience, total agreement isn’t always possible. But that’s not a bad thing! Studies have shown that conflict in the workforce can actually be a good thing for productivity, relationship building, and creativity.

Still disagreeing with someone at work can be intimidating. The good news is that the first step to conquering nerves when conflict arises start with you. Confidence is the key to successful and productive communication, especially when disagreeing.

Confidence Boost: Tips to enhance that vial trait.

Reframe your self talk. Rather than telling yourself I can’t do this, or They won’t hear me,” rethink you internal dialogue. Say to yourself,” I am informed,” I ‘m prepared,’ or something more active, such as I love a good challenge”

Learn to avoid non-constructive feedback. If ideas presented to you aren’t helpful or relevant, it’s okay to ignore them instead, listen for suggestions that relate to the current problem and that seem both reasonable and useful.

Consider how others see you. The person sitting across from you naturally sees you differently than you see youself, and it’s more likely than not they have positive opinions about youir knowledge, experience, and skills. You wouldn’t be where you are if you didn’t bring real value to the table Remember that.

Create an alter ego. Want to be more confident? Imagine someone you know or want to know who remains poised, logical, and professional. You can work to be that person by imagining yourself in their shoes

Ultimately self confidence starts with exactly that the self. Remember that your idea could be the next one to pioneer change. Confidence is an essential element in preparing you to address disagreement at work. Without it, you start off on shaky ground. With it you can stand solidly, focusing instead on your ideas and communication.